For many parents, having children is the most significant reckoning in one's lifetime.The birth of Anthony Sposato's first child made him realize he had not taken full advantage of the opportunities presented to him in life. He had not been raised with all of the tools for turning opportunity into success, and he and his wife, Carol, determined to give their children a better chance to succeed. "Like just about all new parents, we had no formal training on how to raise children when our first was born. As a manager and later owner of my own business, I recognized a tragic lack of work ethic in the 20-somethings I worked with. I put much of the culpability on the parents and I used my management skills to help raise my kids." Sposato, author of "Successful Parenting," (tinyurl.com/ou392jh) offers four tips for raising well-adjusted children: * Start making necessary changes ASAP. It all starts in the womb; as soon as you know you're pregnant, it's time for both Mom and Dad to start adjusting their lifestyle for the baby. That means implementing a consistent routine and forming better habits. If you know you eat poorly, or if you smoke, change those bad habits. They can not only hurt the child while it's in the womb, he or she will grow up modeling them. * Create a healthy routine for your child. Children crave structure and therefore, routine. A consistent routine also takes the guesswork out of parents with busy schedules. This includes bathing, brushing teeth and talking or reading to your son or daughter. Don't put a television in their room, and do not let them watch excitable programs before bed elsewhere in the house. Consistently eat dinner together at the table with no distractions. * Get control of yourself or you'll never be able to control your children. The old joke, "Do as I say, not as I do," simply doesn't fly when trying to raise well-adjusted children. Children often pick up on what they see and not what we tell them. They are very sensitive to hypocrisy; if you use profanity in front of them, how will they feel when you scold them for repeating what you've said? When telling them what is right and wrong, explain to them why that is so. * Teach your children to question and reason for themselves. Smart adults don't simply accept the claims of others; they need reason and evidence to agree with any statement. Parents should emphasize to their children the importance of questioning claims and to reason for themselves.

********** Published: Sept. 12, 2013 - Volume 12 - Issue 22